The other day, one of my friends posted a link to this NYT article written by a Mormon woman who decided to become sexually active after turning 36. She said she couldn't believe God wanted her to be alone her whole life.
I've been wanting to respond to this article all week. It's been weighing on my mind. The article brings up so many response tangents I don't know where to begin. I understand the physical weight & loneliness of carrying a life alone. It's pretty heavy. When I was younger, my worst fear was never getting married. I really wanted to know why God would make that a challenge for any person.
For both men & women, in or out of religion, there is real truth in marriage. Why else would people still care about it? Not just for the dress and the pictures and the sparklers. Marriage is a true principle. We aren't supposed to be alone forever.
I have lots of responses. I don't know how to organize them yet in a way that is coherent. But I will say, her decision is her decision. It's her life. And the whole point is to make our own choices. I'm just real sad she doesn't see what I see in our religion (what her parents saw), that if we believe in the atonement of Jesus Christ, then any any any trial we face--no matter the magnitude--has the power of bringing us closer to God.
Faith hope and charity have very real power.
And so this is a beginning to a discussion I've been wanting to have anyways.